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Thanks to all of those that have formed my beliefs.</p><p>I hope this resonates!</p><h3>7 reflections</h3><ol><li><p>Life is not something to be optimized, but rather to be lived, deeply felt, and absorbed.</p></li><li><p>You don&#8217;t need to be in love with someone or with friends to experience the best version of life.</p></li><li><p>Acceptance is a superpower: not everything in life can be changed, and that&#8217;s ok.</p></li><li><p>We all have deeply rooted self-limiting beliefs; it&#8217;s important that you find them, give them language, and move past them.</p></li><li><p>Too often we try to quiet the busy mind and fight overstimulation with more stimulation: it&#8217;s important to be more intentional about screens, consumption, and boredom.</p></li><li><p>Life is full of nuance! Embrace the tension, sit in the cognitive dissonance, and let it be. Not everything is a problem to be solved.</p></li><li><p>Don&#8217;t take life so seriously: sometimes we get caught up in our mind, our body gets tense, and we are long overdue to let it all go.</p></li></ol><p>I have some pretty simple promises to myself for age 18.</p><h3>8 promises</h3><ol><li><p>I am going to eat foods that make me feel good &amp; move my body in ways that I love.</p></li><li><p>I am going to create way more than I consume.</p></li><li><p>I am going to learn something new every day &amp; go deep into the things I&#8217;m outrageously curious about,</p></li><li><p>I am going to spend money on the things that matter and stop wasting money on the things that don&#8217;t,</p></li><li><p>I am going to do work that I find fulfilling and rooted in my principles (this takes time to understand),</p></li><li><p>I am going to love others and listen deeply with my whole heart (tip: ground yourself in presence).</p></li><li><p>I am going to approach people with vulnerability, curiosity, a lack of judgement, and openness.</p></li><li><p>I am going to create synergy with body (energy), gut (intuition), heart (authenticity), mind (sense), and hands (action).</p></li></ol><p>Hope you enjoyed reading! Here&#8217;s to another great year &#129346;</p>]]></content:encoded></item></channel></rss>